We are often tempted to “explain” suffering in terms of “the will of God.” Not only can this evoke anger and frustration, but also it is false. “God's will” is not a label that can be put on unhappy situations. God wants to bring joy not pain, peace not war, healing not suffering. Therefore, instead of declaring anything and everything to be the will of God, we must be willing to ask ourselves where in the midst of our pains and sufferings we can discern the loving presence of God.

Henri Nouwen
Show Me The Way
Crossroad Publishing Co., 1992

I do not believe that suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness, and willingness to remain vulnerable.

Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Within and Without
Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, Inc., 1980